Wednesday, April 23, 2014

We DID...

The long overdue wedding post is now here...

The weather cooperated, hair and dress and shoes all were just fine.  Spencer's suit still fit and he shaved off his beard just for the wedding.  Martin's suit was ready.  We were ready.  Everyone was ready.


Capt Chris performed the ceremony on the top deck of the boat.
Yes, we were married on a BOAT.
In San Francisco.
On a beautiful, sunny day.


We weren't the only ones who tied the knot.  May I present Mr. and Mrs. Cow.


The cake topper came from Etsy.
It was perfect.
The cake was yummy.

Mr. and Mrs. Honey


Saturday, March 29, 2014

What happened to February and March?????

I've been meaning to write this post for a while, just short of a month to be specific.

Honey arrived as planned on March 5th.  I nervously waited for him to appear on the tv monitor in the arrivals lobby.  Once he showed up on that, it was mere seconds for him to walk through the door.  It seemed like I waited forever, and almost broke down in tears thinking he hadn't made it through immigration but there he was...

Once he arrived we pretty much hit the ground running.  There is a LOT to do to prepare for the next step in getting him here permanently.

He arrived on Wednesday.  By the time Sunday was over, we had added him to the lease, opened a joint banking account, got a marriage license and bought a car.  That was an exhausting few days.

Monday it was back to work for me and time for Martin to try and settle into the Chaos.

During the next two weeks, we dropped some money at IKEA for new furniture, Honey assembled it all, and we made some more steps forward into getting him even more settled into the Chaos.

Now it was time to finalize the wedding plans and for Honey's parents to arrive.  They've been here 3 days and are still dealing with a little jet lag, tons of rain (they thought they had left that behind!), and the American way of life.

I have the next few weeks off.  My side of the family arrives Thursday and Friday.  We get married on Saturday.

HOLY CRAP WE'RE GETTING MARRIED IN 7 DAYS!!!!

There, got it out of my system for now.  Everything is set, we just all need to show up now.  The wheels are in motion, we just have to go along for the ride.

Now for the boring stuff.

Makeup:
No makeup except for something on my lips.  I've come to the conclusion that my perspiration and tears are comprised of acid.  I've given up trying to find makeup that won't run down my face - even though it says it is waterproof or "bulletproof".  As far as I'm concerned, it does NOT exist!

Hair:
I FINALLY found the size of sponge rollers I've been looking for so now my hair is done.  I tried hot rollers, curling iron, all sorts of hair products to keep it in place, etc etc etc.  Not one bit of that stuff worked.  I decided to go all old school and try the sponge curlers like my Mom used to curl my hair with when I was little.

BINGO!  Roll up all hair into sponge rollers except the front.  Sleep in them.  Take them out, run my fingers through my hair, pull it all up and back in a pony tail elastic.  TADA!  Hair is up and with the super curliness I got from the sponge curlers, I look like i have a high bun made out of curled ends.  NOT ONE BOBBY PIN NEEDED.  Just one lonesome hair elastic and lots of hairspray.

Dress and shoes still fit - barely.  Note to self: stop bloating for crying out loud.  Just. Stop.

Think that is all I've got for now.  Honey arrived safely, we've been busy, his family just arrived the other day, my family is coming in a few days.

Now if the weather could just make up its mind that would be good.  Thank you.

Friday, January 31, 2014

The Beginnings of a Really Good Panic...

Latest update:
Honey received his Visa on Wednesday via the special courier he had to sign up for...sticky thing in his passport and an envelope marked DO NOT OPEN which contains all the paperwork he has to turn in when he lands on US soil...which is March 5th!!!!

Our wedding is set for one month after that...

Just call it perfect timing:

I went this past weekend to visit our #1 choice of wedding venue.  We were hoping that we would know whether Honey was approved or not by then - and we did!  Antonella and I met up in San Francisco for lunch then toured the venue.  I took photos, we got specifics and asked questions.  I sent the photos to Honey that night and we discussed  everything on Sunday - by Tuesday we had it booked.

That takes care of the ceremony/reception.

We have been busy:

Honey is now at his parents packing up and getting ready to come over.  Tying up lose ends and getting everything necessary that needs doing for such a big move.

Airline tickets and hotels are being worked out for the family traveling into town for the Big Day.

We're trying to get our heads round everything else that needs to be done.  Choose invites, cake (and topper), flowers, etc etc.  Hoping we don't miss anything in the process.

It is not easy planning a wedding when the bride and groom are thousands of miles apart.  Thanks to technology though we are getting it done.  And thank Heaven for all-inclusive venues too - that alleviates a lot of stress.  Not going to say anything just yet about what we are doing.  You'll just have to wait.

Bridal Preparations

The push is on now to get hair and makeup good enough for such an important event.  

Makeup
I'm still not comfortable with putting on and wearing makeup.  I must be honest though and confess I haven't been doing as much practicing as I should.  That is about to change though as the clock is ticking!  Makeup is not supposed to make you look older - not unless that is the specific look you are going for...  Last time I checked, no one really puts on makeup to look older for their wedding.  It has been very discouraging to say the least.  I keep trying though and switching out this for that to see if it works better.

Hair:
I have spent the last few weeks on youtube looking at hair styling videos and videos about hair accessories and veils.

I have decided on a 'do for the wedding and have ditched any notions of having a birdcage veil and/or fascinator.  I don't do well with hats/head coverings of any sort and I honestly look a bit ridiculous with something sticking out the side of my head - and the veil is just...awkward.

With the new 'do though, I will have a nice hair accessory of some sort clipped on the back of my head.  I can handle that - yes indeedy.  What I need is confidence and comfort.  I get that with the hairdo I picked and the small but fabulous clip I will wear.

Now I just need to find that magical clip.  Or make it.  Lord knows I have enough supplies to open up my own bridal hair accessory shop.

Hmmmmm....there's a thought!

OK, back to reality.  I went to Michael's and stocked up on ribbon because I thought I would be making ribbon flowers to go in my hair.  Watched a shitload of youtube how-to videos about making said flowers.  Have now decided I don't want anything so 3-D on my head.  With the 'do I've chosen, the hair is the star - and one thing I do have is some good hair.  The search is on for the receipt as there are a few roles of ribbon that need to be returned.

Once the floral something was nixed, I decided to go with a nice flat clip similar in size to the one that was in the hair styling video.  I have searched high and low online and have not found anything that jumps out and says "BUY ME".  They are either too big or too small or on a comb or waaaaaay too expensive.  Looks like I'm making my magical clip. And so began the Great youtube search for videos about clips.  Got sucked into beading videos from there and well...  Goodness knows what I'll come up with but I'm going for understated but classy with a bit of sparkle.  It will not be a comb though.  Most everything on youtube shows accessories that have combs.  My hair is so thick it basically chews them up and spits them out.  It is OK with having clips in it though so now I have to devise something fabulous that can be put on a clip.  I think I have enough ideas, beads and wire to get this done.  If none of that works, a few crystals wired to bobby pins strategically placed in the 'do will work quite nicely.

It's always nice to have a backup plan.

In Conclusion:
From here on out I bore you with wedding stuff and blabber about how I'm trying to get myself together so I look like a bride instead of someone who hardly ever wears a dress, or does her hair up fancy or wears makeup.




Wednesday, January 22, 2014

APPROVED!!!!

Martin passed his interview and his visa has been approved!  We are so happy and excited and OMG!!!!

He had to leave his passport with them for processing.  We have no idea how long it will take before he gets it back.

Petition mailed April 27th, 2013

Visa approved...January 22, 2014


Correction: They told him that he should have the visa in about a week or so. YAY!

Tuesday, January 14, 2014

Emo Roller Coaster...not a ride I like...

From the highest personal high in a long time for me to a family low.

The "family dog" Dexter had not been himself since the New Year.

He was in the doggie hospital most of last week.

He improved so was sent home with my sister who had been lovingly caring for him since Mom passed away (and before then too - he was spoiled rotten by them both).

She had to make the decision to put him down last night while I was on my way home.  He had a relapse and there was no easy way back.

My small family is in mourning once again.  He was a beloved family member who stood loyally by my Mom for a very long time and had been a loving companion to my Sister.  He was spoiled rotten and could be a pain in the backside but we all loved him anyway.

He was 13 yrs old.  He is deeply missed.

We know his Spirit is with Mom's and they are having a nice long reunion walk.

Rest easy Dexter.

Monday, January 13, 2014

SQUEEEEEE!!!

Martin received the letter today and...

His Embassy Interview is NEXT WEEK!!!!!

He'll be heading to London for his January 22nd interview at 9am!

Which means he might know the final decision before I even wake up.

There are NO WORDS that I can say to express how I feel right now.

Except maybe SQUEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!

That's about all I can manage at the moment.

What little wedding prep I can do has just been kicked in high gear!

Thursday, January 09, 2014

We're getting so close, I'm about ready to panic...

Martin and I were discussing the latest about his visa.

Not really much to talk about since we're in waiting mode.  There has been lots of waiting.  We're getting good at it I suppose.  Doesn't make it any easier though.

Latest estimate is that Martin should be receiving a letter from the London Embassy in the next week or so with his appointment date or some sort of appointment notice.  Once he submitted that last set of forms and other things after his physical, the countdown started: 6 weeks.

We are just over the 4 week mark I think.

And we wait.

The Embassy won't respond to questions about status or anything.

So we wait.

In the meantime, we try to plan for a wedding that we can't really finalize a date for...

We do have a tentative date but I'm not saying anything just yet. Don't want to jinx it. :)

In the meantime, we do research about wedding stuff and Antonella and I are going to go visit a potential venue in a few weeks.

Although we can't really do all that much but tell them our situation and hope they can work with all the unknowns.

At this point, I have a dress, Martin has a suit, Spencer has a new suit, and we have the rings.

That's all we really need to make an appointment at City Hall for a license and a ceremony.

Oh yes, and the visa.  Can't do much without that now can we?